Soul Mates -or- Cheating for Sport

Beth, 45

I Keep Having This Dream; Of a Man in My Dreams I Never Get To See His Face But I Love  him , and He loves me, More love Than I've ever felt so safe in his arms. I long for him and when I wake up from the Dream I Feel so alone, Like I am reliving his absence all over again. I Feel as If this Beautiful man is My soul mate in a Past Life or My future. Who is this man who doesn't have to say a word for me to feel his undying love? I've never saw his face or heard his voice but I'm in a relationship now, I have been for 17 years with a man that cheats on me for sport, and the one thing he has taught me is to recognize real love and commitment when I see it because of the beautiful man in my dreams.

Mr Hagen's Reply; Amor and Psyche -or- The Man of Your Dreams

Thomas Moore Soul Mates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship, defines a soul mate as someone with whom "we feel profoundly connected, as though the communicating and communing that takes place between us were not the product of intentional affairs, but divine grace." Moore believes that dreams provide the royal road to the Soul. This intimate imagination allows deep creative emotions to be woven into our everyday thought and feelings. Soul work is carried out when the imagination moves into the deep recesses of the mind in search of the sacred.

From a popular music perspective you seem to have a "Secret Lover" (watch music video). 

From a different Jungian perspective Erich Neumann Amor and Psyche: The Psychic Development of the Feminine perhaps provides an answer to why you never see the man of your dreams face. Your dreams have become inhabited by the archetypal romantic tale of love know as Cupid and Psyche. While I do not subscribe to the theory of past lives, I do believe that your dream is trying to tell you something about your present relationship. There is much more that I could say about why this dream is recurring, however I believe that deep down you already know what I would say about the relationship you are in.




Mark H


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