Forgiveness in Lebanon
Hamid, 34 Lebanese
WELL I AM DIVORCED 2 YEARS AGO WITHOUT ANY REASON SHE LEFT ME.
IN MY DREAM I SAW AN OLD WOMAN WITH WHITE HAIR AND SHE WAS ASKING ME TO FORGIVE HER, BUT I DONT KNOW HER, SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE IS JASMINE, MY EX WIFE BUT SHE LOOK TOTALY DIFFERENT PERSON.
Mr Hagen's Reply; Forgiveness -or- Act of Love
Without more personal information about your ex-wife, it is difficult to say anything about the reasons why she left, however your dream does seem to say something about the person she will become.
In your dream she asks you for forgiveness. Foregiveness and Other Acts of Love, by Stephanie Dowrick tells us; "BETWEEN FOREGIVENESS AND responsibility exists a tense and intense relationship. Forgiveness comes to life not through our capacity to see the failings in others and to judge them, but though our willingness to own up to who we are, to know what we have done, and to acknowledge what we are capable of doing." I think what Dowrick is really talking about is taking responsibility, self-forgiveness, self-judgement, self-love and humility. The path to love and forgiveness of others must first travel through self-love and self-forgiveness. From a popular music perspective Bryan Adams Please Forgive Me seems to fit the sentiment of your dream.
What I tell my clients is that I leave my judgement outside the door. (Except in cases of abuse, real thoughts of self-harm or real thoughts of doing harm to others). Sometimes people come into therapy seeking "absolution", by definition I'm not the one to give it to them. Your ex-wife appears to you as an old woman, from a Jungian perspective she would then represent the archetypal wise old woman. Meaning most likely sometime in the future when the experiences of time become visible on her face, your ex-wife when she is older, looks different and is more matured will feel differently about your relationship. You will also feel and view things differently. Experience transforms the way we see, and the way we look at ourselves and the world. When we look at our lives in retrospect, everything usually looks different.
Hope that provides some insight.
Mark H