Jar of Hearts -or- Masculine Dream Egocentrism

It's Not All About You -or- Ease Her Pain

Many dreams received by the International Institute for Dream Research speak about failed "intimate" relationships. Here a few of those dreams and their interpretations; "Dreaming of One's Pleasures", and "Basic Instinct". Below we find one more example to illustrate the emotional problems of loving;

Tim, 31

I dreamt of my ex-friend laying on the couch in her office and not looking too happy while some times trying to cover her face. I was walking through her office. I ended the eleven year relation with this friend four years ago. 

Mr Hagen's Reply; I'm Not Over You -or- You're So Vain 

Your dream is cognitively organized by the "first person narrative" form. This "dream vision" story egocentrically revolves around you, as you say; "I dreamt", "I was walking", "I ended". If she is, or was your "friend", then why is she still grieving and emotionally laboring over a relationship that you ended? Often people can't see beyond their own "narcissistic" nose...can you see that? If you can "see" that she is unhappy in your dream, can you empathize, care, know and see her perspective. Can you see that your dream is showing you, that she hasn't found emotional closure? The dream is one more "Ex-File" (read dream interpretation) of the walking emotionally wounded. Why don't you try to "ease her pain", so that she can move on? Your dream seems to indicate she is emotionally suffering and needs some help....Is the word "compassion" part of your vocabulary? From a number of popular music perspectives, Christina Perri's "Jar of Hearts" (watch video) and Gavin DeGraw's "Not Over You" (watch video) seems to convey the sentiments of your dream. On the other hand Carly Simon's "You're So Vain" (watch video) seems to also fit the description.

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